NT: *is confused by autistic’s communication*
NT: you have a communication deficit
autistic: *is confused by NT’s communication*
NT: you have a communication deficit
NT: *accidentally offends autistic*
NT: you have a social skills problem
autistic: *accidentally offends NT*
NT: you have a social skills problem
“video games linked to adhd” gee i wonder why ppl with adhd would be drawn to an interactive medium that fully engages your brain and gives your hands something to do at the same time. it is a mystery
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i want to know the stories behind all of these
Tag yourselves I’m no tap dancing
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hey @ all y'all changing my pronouns on my wiki page - that’s awesome but I also haven’t talked to my publicist or family about it yet. I was kind of hoping it would stay within the tumblr realm for now as it will probably throw off potential employers and producers who want to hire me for movies - they often look at wiki pages. please keep it she/her up there for now. thanks
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Anonymous asked:
Even if you disagree with the fact that aspergers is "bad" or whatever, it's still a used term :) It doesn't matter if you dislike it, just wanted to throw that your way.
slimeandsensitive Answer:
A used term that literally eliminates accommodations and resources for people.
A used term that demonizes a vast majority of our community.
A used term that creates a hierarchy.
A used term created by someone who only cares about white males that had social skills and extreme talents.
A used term that isn’t a diagnosis anymore in the United States.
A used term that literally makes people think they’re better than others.
A used term that is literally has no definite criteria and when autistic people are known to have traits all across the board.
A used term that favors one group of people over another.
A term used to belittle people’s experiences.
It’s funny how neurotypicals keep talking about how autistic people lack empathy while they’re simultaneously so unable to empathize with us that they’re having trouble comprehending that we are human beings with our own thoughts, feelings and experiences and when they therefore can’t see why abusing us into doing what they want or even killing us would be wrong.
All non-empaths I have talked to have been able to comprehend that other people are human beings with their own thoughts, feelings, opinions and experiences - whether they care or not - yet this basic acknowledgement of humanity is often missing when it comes to neurotypical people’s perception of autistic people.
It’s odd how empaths always act like guilt, remorse and empathy are the only things that could realistically keep people away from hurting others as if rational considerations such as “if I do this, it will negative have consequences for me, therefor I won’t do it” are somehow less valid and less finite than the fear of an emotional response. Plus, it’s not like lack of affective empathy/guilt/remorse equals actively wanting to hurt others in the first place.
Empathy isn’t a requirement for being human.
"I think white gay people feel cheated because they were born, in principle, in a society in which they were supposed to be safe. The anomaly of their sexuality puts them in danger, unexpectedly. Their reaction seems to me in direct proportion to their sense of feeling cheated of the advantages which accrue to white people in a white society. There’s an element, it has always seemed to me, of bewilderment and complaint. Now that may sound very harsh, but the gay world as such is no more prepared to accept black people than anywhere else in society."- James Baldwin, In a 1984 interview with Richard Goldstein (via whitelbgqtprivilege)
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the fact that the gender binary is a European invention that was forced on the rest of the world through colonialism and unspeakable violence means that it’s pretty much impossible for people of colour to be cis / benefit from cisness as a structure in the same way or to the same extent that white people do, and if you’re a white trans person you really need to keep your race at the forefront of your mind when discussing transness
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In honor of Autism Awareness Month, what about shutting up, sitting the fuck down and listening to what autistic people have to say about autism?
1. Autism is a fundamental part of who we are and how we experience the world and it cannot be separated from who we are as people. Autism isn’t something that is happening to us, it’s something we are. Do not tell us that autism is something that we have or something that we’re suffering from, that we only have value if we can separate our identities and our personalities from autism. For the vast majority of autistic people, autism is a part of our identity which means that despite common belief most of us prefer to be called “autistic” as opposed to “people with autism.”
2. The vast majority of autistic people do not want a cure, we want acceptance and accommodations. Do not put your time and money into researching how to cure autism and how to prevent it, put time and money into accommodating and accepting autistic people. We do not wish to become neurotypical, we wish to change society so that we can be accommodated, accepted and included as autistic people. Our goal isn’t to become as close to neurotypical as possible, it is to get the opportunity to live happy, fulfilling lives as autistic people. It is society that needs to chance, not us.
3. We do not support Autism Speaks or their campaign #LightItUpBlue and neither should you. If you want to support autistic people, check out ASAN or Autism Women’s Network instead. If you want to know why Autism Speaks isn’t supported by autistic people, this post contains links to a lot of resources on the topic.
4. Functioning labels are inaccurate and harmful and they do not give a nuanced description of what kind of support an autistic person needs. Instead of calling an autistic person “high functioning” or “low-functioning” name the specific issues or strengths you’re referring to. Are they non-verbal? Say that. Are they able to manage a job? Say that. Are they unable to drive? Say that. Do not attempt to force us into two boxes, one of which are used to invalidate or struggles and ignore our deficits and the other one being used to ignore our assets and deny our humanity.
5. Non-verbal autistic people can and do learn to communicate using other communication forms than verbal speech and they’re all individuals with their own thoughts, feelings, wants and opinions. You do not get to speak on behalf of non-verbal autistic people. You do not get to assume that you know exactly what they think, want and feel, especially not when you have never made any effort to communicate with any of them. Instead of assuming that you know what non-verbal autistic people think and feel, try listening to what they have to say by reading the words of some non-verbal autistic people such as @lysikan or Amy Sequenzia or Emma Zurcher-Long.
6. ABA is harmful and abusive. The goal of ABA isn’t to help autistic people develop coping methods and helpful strategies, it is to train and force them into hiding their autistic traits by all means possible. If you do not see why this is a problem or if you want to learn more about why it is such a big problem, this masterpost by @neurowonderful contains a lot of resources on why ABA is harmful.
7. If you want to learn more about autism, listen to autistic people - not our parents, our siblings, our therapists our or caregivers. Autistic people are the ones who know the most about being autistic, so if you want to learn about autism we’re the ones you should ask. If you want to learn more about the different aspects of autism, @neurowonderful‘s youtube series “Ask An Autistic” is a good place to start. You can also send any questions you might have about autism to @askanautistic where autistic people are ready to answer them for you.
Please reblog this post to spread the word even if you do not plan to share anything else in connection with Autism Awareness Month.
Imagine how many people we could reach if all the self-proclaimed allies of autistic people reblogged this post just once so that it could gain visibility outside tumblrs autistic community.
